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Life changing..... 


Three years and four months back this heart-braking young beautiful boy changed our lives :o)

A few months ago we found out he is on the Autism spectrum.... Well, for weeks I did not sleep or eat!! I tried to convince the doctors they were wrong by calling them, showing them my son and EVERY other possible thing I could think of!!

Finally I got to terms with it... I read 16 books about Autism and how to deal with "it" - read everything I possible could find on the internet.....

Now - after this time has passed I can smile when I think back... (have called the doctors and apologized for this strange behavior which obviously they are used to :)

I finally saw Alexander again as "he is" - a perfect little boy that needs different things then his brothers... BUT OMG how much his small steps makes us happy...!

We did change many things in his/our lives - what we eat, how we look at things, how we talk to him....... hm... almost everything.... but things are getting back to normal, except what we eat...


Conclusion..... Difficult times make you look at life from a different "angle" and make you learn to appreciate things that maybe you took as granted before....

Alexander has taught me soooo many things - and I absolutely love him with all of my heart... to me this little guy is PERFECT...!

(his autism makes it hard for him to be around new things and people... he does not speak as he should but slowly he is learning. He does not accept people until he is very used to them BUT... he understands far more then he should, draws far better then he should for his age... knows all the letters AND makes us smile all the time because of his GREAT sense of humor!!!))

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Johnpro says:
Wow Ragga, thanks for sharing this. I wish you all the best as you come to terms with this. At least you have some idea of how to go forward now. He is a handsome little guy!
Life does give us some challenges doesn't it?
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Absolutely John... But I actually have started to believe the saying about that what does not kill you, makes you stronger :o) Thank you John...
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Hilmar Gunnarsson says:
Yndislegt Ragga mín :)
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Æ þetta tók sinn tíma - var uppá mitt versta þegar þú fórst út sl. vetur En allt á uppleið :o)
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Pixiepro says:
Ah já... lífið hefur lag á að læðast aftan að manni... stundum gerir það manni bilt við og stundum knúsar það mann ;o)
Yndisleg mynd og yndislegur texti... knús :o)
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Takk mín kæra... og já - maður veit aldrei hvað læðist næst að manni...!
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Bogaugon says:
La foto de tu hijito y tu testimonio sobre su autismo me ha tocado mucho. Me imagino la fortaleza de espíritu y de corazón para comprender cuando algo no anda bien con un hijo. De una manera diferente nos ha tocado a nosotros. Pero lo importante es saber encontrar el camino para darles lo mejor de nosotros y todo el amor. Eso es lo que importa, ya que el amor es el mejor medio para dar felicidad y contención a los que amamos.
Hermoso tu texto y los mejores deseos para ustedes como familia.
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink / translate )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Thank you so much for those beautiful words Bogaugon... It really was difficult coming to terms with that he is not like "other" children but then again... he has NEVER had a fever in his life, never gotten sick or any of the stuff other kids have to deal with all the tim (7 - 9 - 13) and then again if you think like Pollyanna - it could be so much worse... I absolutely do appreciate him for what he is and believe me he is a little charm :o)
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Bougi says:
He's a part of you and we can see the big love he have for... his mother... in his eyes!
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Oh yes - he is so good to me!! Amongst the first words he said were I love you :o) His eyes do help him a lot because I don´t believe he has yet met someone who can resist the way he looks at people (although he doesn´t look at strangers or people he doesn´t know :o)
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Sigrun Thorvardar IS says:
æ fallegi, bjarti strákhnokkinn, auðvitað er hann fullkominn og þar sem þið elskið hann eins og hann er, þá er engu að kvíða - ég er forvitin með mataræðið, hvernig og hvers vegna breyttist það?
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Þegar maður les um einhverfu þá er mikið talað um mataræði tengt þessari greiningu. Margir læknar segja að mataræði geti ekkert hjálpað einhverfum einstaklingum en svo eru margir foreldrar sem að segja annað.
Við tókum út e-efni, glútín, sykur, hveiti og mjólkurvörur. Hann tók stór stökk fram á við nokkrum vikum seinna þannig að ég var ekki viss um hvort það væri mataræðinu að þakka eða einhverju öðru svo að ég prófaði eitt inn í einu og við þurftum ekki að bíða lengi eftir skrefum afturá bak.
E - efnin eru reyndar utan við þetta en ég hef bara tekið þau út úr mataræðinu hjá okkur öllum. Það er allt annað en auðvelt að taka öll þessi efni úr fæðunni en fá samt allt sem við þurfum þannig að þetta var mikill höfuðverkur fyrstu mánuðina en í dag er þetta miklu auðveldar.

Ég studdist mikið við bækurnar "China study" og "Meltingarvegurinn og Geðheilsan"...

Mæli algjörlega með þeim báðum.

Eftir að við tókum mjólkurvörurnar út hjá Alexander hefur notkun þeirra minnkað til muna hjá okkur hinum líka sem varð til þess að Kristinn Logi þarf ekki lengur að nota astma-lyfin sín... OG nýjar rannsóknir hafa leitt í ljós að við nýtum ekki kalk úr mjólkurvörum vegna þess að þær eru svo "súrar" - þannig að í rauninni er algjörlega ástæðulaust fyrir okkur að troða mjólkurvörum í börnin okkar alla daga..

Eh - sko ég get alveg misst mig í þessum pælingum en þetta er allavega gert til að hjálpa Alexander :o) (og reyndar okkur öllum - borðum orðið mikið meira af grænmeti, ávöxtum, hnetum og fræjum og vörum tengdum þessum fæðuflokkum heldur en áður...)
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Régis Desaillypro says:
Super le gamin! quelque soit son handicap, aimez le , il vous le rendra au centuple. Amts.*********
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink / translate )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
I agree with you - his every step forward makes us so very happy!! It´s like he takes "jumps" forward... :o) His beautiful smile and warm hugs are so rewarding that everything else seems like apiece of cake :o)
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Kostas Sidiropoulos says:
A great mother and her brave son!
Congratulations Raga,I wish you a blessing new life.Lukcy to have a wonderful son like this one.
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Thank you so much Kostast... I do consider my self very lucky... I have 3 perfect sons and I love them more then life :o)
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Bärbel Arnoldpro says:
Thanks a lot for your emotions and sharing the problems (?) you have. Autism is surely a big problem, but no problem for loving parents...congrats to your wonderful sun, I know that you will help him on his way through life !
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Autism has million faces (or more) - Alexander is not on the "highest" end and I believe he will get through this (if it is possible to say it like that :o).... He has brilliant trainers which are helping him so much and then changing what he ate helped a lot also... I absolutely am doing my best and will continue to do so :o)
Thanks Bårbel.....
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
gin_ablepro says:
all my best wishes to you and your family.
you are on the right way! it's not easy to be away from the mainstream.
and nobody but you has the right to define what the right way is!
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Thanks so much Gin_able.. True! it is not easy "not to fit in" but we are doing our best and I am sure things will only get better :o)
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
JmB Photo says:
En tous cas, il est Super Mignon ce petit gars.
Et très belle photo
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Thank you so much JmB.... :o)
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Merkisteinnpro says:
Frábært portrett
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Takk fyrir Kristinn.... :o)
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Robe says:
Hi Alexander...... a great name for a great man! :-)
All my best wishes to you! :-)
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Alexander The Greatest :o)
Thanks so much Robe...!
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Oddur Jonssonpro says:
Glæsileg mynd af glæsilegum ungum manni! Skil alveg fyrstu viðbrögðin en er líka ánægður með hvernig þú tókst á þessu. Held að hann sé mjög heppinn að eiga góða að og fullviss um að hann muni spjara sig í lífinu :o)
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Ó þakka þér fyrir Oddur!!
Við gerum algjörlega okkar besta og ég er (flesta daga) viss um að við náum þessu úr honum ef svo má að orði komast. Hann er með frábært fólk í kringum sig á leikskólanum, þjálfarar og starfsfólk sem er algjörlega að gera góða hluti!!!
Gaman að sjá þig aftur :o)
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Andre Villeneuve says:
Superbe portrait et un beau sourire
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink / translate )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Thanks Andre :o)
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
tip_simonapro says:
Ti faccio i miei migliori auguri, hai un figlio davvero splendido
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink / translate )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Thanks so much - really appreciated :)
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Lory says:
quel rayonnement cet enfant ..il est lumineux ************
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink / translate )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Thanks - he is my light :o) (well - one of 3 ;o)
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
David Effet Mer says:
wow superbe !
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink / translate )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Thanks so much David :o)
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Sanoj says:
wonderful portrait of a lovely boy
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Thank you Sanoj :o)
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Céline de la Vallée says:
Un très très beau portrait, et une très grande histoire d'amour.
Dommage que tous les enfants ne partent pas avec les mêmes atouts dans la vie.
Mais celu-ci a la chance d'avoir plein d'amour autour de lui. C'est tellement beau.
Amitiés
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink / translate )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Thanks Céline :o)
Yes it is a shame - But we are so lucky!! His progress is slow but constant - well, these days he is doing great so maybe not that slow :o)
Posted 2 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Charles Anderson says:
what a little cutie. That sure is a keeper. Good one.
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
:o) yes I promise - I will keep him (or are you talking about the picture LOL).....
Posted 2 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Charles Anderson says:
i had hair just like that when i was tiny. precious.
Posted 3 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Yes, he is so blond :o) I know it will get dark with time but he really looks cute with those white golden "locks" :o) Thanks Charles!
Posted 2 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Solpro says:
Alexander is a blessing! Thanks Ragga for sharing this!
Posted 2 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
He absolutely is Sol :o) Thank YOU!
Posted 2 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Sabou la tête dans les étoiles...pro says:
Il est dans son monde, vous dans le vôtre et pour communiquer, pour vous aimer, pour vous comprendre, il faut que ces deux mondes se rejoignent. Avec beaucoup d'amour la vie sera belle, pour lui comme pour vous. L'amour triomphe de tout malgré les moments parfois diffciles.
Dans ce portrait il y a plein de vie, il est très beau.
Posted 2 weeks ago. ( permalink / translate )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Thanks Sabou.
He is not in his own world "Thank God" - it is not that serious with Alexander. His autism symptoms are being VERY shy, stubborn and not talking..! But he does communicate with all the people he loves and he is getting so much better in his "shy-ness" - every day he is a little better and even these days he is looking some strangers straight in their eyes!!!
What he eats really makes difference which made me go and read about "food" a lot... What is strange to me is that there is so much that we eat that is really unhealthy for us! (and I am not talking about the obvious things)....
Posted 2 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Jacques Falardeaupro says:
il est tellement cute, et tu à bien raison avec son sourire
je te souhaite bon courage je suis avec toi dans son cheminement
avec amour
Jacques
Posted 2 weeks ago. ( permalink / translate )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Thank you so much for those kind words Jacques!!
Posted 2 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Typopro says:
Everyday I see and talk to a little boy like yours. My only piece of advice: I´m sure you´re going to give him a lot of love and affection. But try not to pamper him by alowing him to do whatever he wants to, flatering him too much. Because a spoiled child is not happy in he end.
He is very smart. and clever. One can see it in his eyes, They are really amazing, quite often sayng very sharp and intelligent remarks and opinions.
it´s easy to tell that you´re a very sensitive and creative person. So there´s no doubt that you will be a fantastic mother to Alexander.
I´ve got a friend in Ipernity, named Ester. She´s from Iceland too. And I call her "mamma Ester". She really cares.
Congratulations for having a son like your Alex.
Posted 2 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Ragnheidurpro says:
Believe you me... he does not get to much of anything :o) At first that was maybe the case because we did not quite understand his behavior - but after learning about autism that changed :o)
He is very clever and in his eyes you can see "visdom" (really)....!
Thank you so much Typo - really appreciated!!
Posted 2 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Typopro says:
Have a nice weekend, Alexander, Ragnheidur and family!!
I asked an English friend of mine how to explain clearer what I wrote yesterday. He told me : "Not to make lower demands of him". All that I know is that parents that have children on the Autism spectrum usually show more love and care than the others. Enjoy your winter!
Posted 2 weeks ago. ( permalink )
Hafdís Eyglópro says:
yndislegur strákur
Posted 6 days ago. ( permalink / translate )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Takk Hafdís mín - ó já hann er yndislegur :o) Þessa dagana gengur hann í of litlum íþróttaálfsbúning sem er þröngur honum yfir bumbuna fliss... ó sko ÓTRÚLEGA fallegur íþróttaálfur!!!
Posted 5 days ago. ( permalink )
*Ingo*pro says:
all the best for your family
Posted 6 days ago. ( permalink )
Ragnheidurpro replies:
Thanks Ingo - and same to you and yours!!! :o)
Posted 5 days ago. ( permalink )
SBH says:
he bien je dois avouer que ce n'est plus le petit bébé que l'on voyait il y a quelque temps, c'est devenu un vrais petit garcon. Cela dit il reste magnifique, ses yeux, son sourir et ses beau cheveux blond....a mon avis il va faire craquer plus d'une fille dans quelque années !
Posted 6 days ago. ( permalink / translate )
picasso franz says:
tolles Foto und ein süßes lächeln, hübsch
Posted 47 hours ago. ( permalink / translate )

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