Max has just written a blog about a friend of hers who's taken up with a bloke who is named Bubba...which says it all...and I know that's scathing and probably considered very rude and lacking in empathy etc on my part but I don't care...
It's a an awful shame when you have a friend who you can't be friends with anymore because of their partner...I was very friendly with a woman I'll call Jane. She was in a pretty rough relationship and we were always there for her...as you are when you are friends with someone.
Then she met a man who we both of us disliked immediately...he is a total control freak for one thing...Himself parked our car when we went to visit and he asked would he move it 'cos it was 'spoiling the view of the lake'....we were there for half an hour at most...
Then Jane found she was pregnant...and had a miscarriage...she told me he was very good to her and 'even went to the hospital with her'...she topped that announcement off with the fact he'd really wanted a son to leave his property to but quite understood if she was too old to have babies...
I was totally aghast and couldn't think of a single polite reply...
They came to supper one night, and I had to fight the urge to either beat him about the head, or slip something horribly poisonous into his food which would make him die in agony...he's a creep. He's arrogant. He's totally self centred.
And I miss my friend...we can't be friends now because he won't allow it...thinks I'm mouthy and a bad influence and gives Jane 'ideas'...
And it's awful sad, but it is her choice and her decision...
It is said that people come into and out of your life for a reason...I once read each relationship teaches you more about others and yourself and you grow because of the way friendships grow and the way they die...
It could well be said that Jane is thinking more about the roof over her head than about her past friends...and maybe that is it. But to be beholden to any person who makes you feel less than worthy to be alive and kicking makes me sad and cross...
You can't meet in secret...that would be plain silly and devious...so you have to let the person who was once your friend go their own way...