'CINDY ASHLEY MILLER's blog/

....PHOTOS UPLOADED TO ANY OF MY GROUPS, WHICH CONTAIN BLURRED, MISSING, OR BLACKED-OUT FACES, WILL NEVER SEE THE LIGHT OF DAY....

....THEY ALL APPEAR ODD, FREAK-ISH, AND UNATTRACTIVE....

....Sooo, PLEEEEZZ STOP SENDING THEM !!!!!!!.....Ooooooo, PLEEEEEZZ....

....Oooooooo....and another thing....Why do some insist on uploading hundreds and hundreds of pics to each one of my groups, to which they are members....expecting MEEE to sort thru them, and find the ones which comply with the group's theme....I DO NOT HAVE TIME TO SORT THRU YOUR ENTIRE GALLERY....In such cases, i will reject EVERY pic sent........STOP....STOP....STOP....PLEEEEEZZ....

....A PRE-kiss is PRE-sexual content....TRUE sexual content would be FAR MORE INTERESTING to witness....

....Why anyone would complain about a PRE-kiss, is far beyond my imagination....So, now i have a new member icon....a TEMPORARY one, until i can find one which is "just right"....

....Most of us have MORE IMPORTANT things to ponder in our daily lives, than a PRE-kiss....Not all of us, tho....Unfortunately....

....Many IPER members, who have added me to their friends list, but have nothing to share, will write to me in a hostile and irate manner, due to the fact that i have not reciprocated, by adding them to MY friends list....

....ADVICE TO THOSE PEOPLE....You have a MUCH, MUCH better chance of being added to my friends list, and other members' lists as well, if you have added pics to your site....Hundreds or thousands of pics are not necessary....Most members would be satisfied in seeing that you have added even a handful of pics....

....However....if you STILL feel that you have been treated unfairly, please send a short note, explaining why i should add you, even tho you have not "bothered" to share....GOOD LUCK, btw....You will need it....

**UPDATE**....Just removed 54 people from my friends list, who were guilty of "taking"....but not "giving"....

....A number of my PRIVATE GROUPS, contain well-over 1,000 pics....and i thank all members for their contributions....However, these groups contain sooo many pages of photos, that many will never see the light of day, because they are pushed sooo far to the back....

....Does anyone have a suggestion, as to the best way to handle such a problem....if, indeed, it requires handling at all....

....Should group contributions be CLOSED???....Should a follow-up group be created???....Should things be left as they are???....Some other suggestion???

....I received the following email from a member of one of my groups....

Subject: contribute

....OMG....DO U BELIEVE THIS???

....A few members....ONLY A FEW....insist on uploading hundreds and hundreds of pics to groups of mine....ALL AT ONE TIME....that have absolutely NOTHING to do with the group theme....After i reject ALL of the pics, they are re-submitted a few days later....

....VERY, VERY, VERY RARELY have i ever deleted, or banned, someone from a group of mine....However, this would be grounds for such an action....NOW STOPPPP....

**UPDATE**....MOMENTS AFTER PUBLISHING THIS POST, I AGAIN RECEIVED HUNDREDS OF PICS, FROM A WELL-KNOWN "PHOTO-DUMPER"....THIS PERSON IS NOW BANNED FROM 26 OF MY GROUPS....

....I have become very disheartened and discouraged, having had my account "suspended" 2 times in one week....

....For some reason, it seems as tho, any disgruntled IPER member, on a PERSONAL CRUSADE OF REVENGE AND SPITE, may file a complaint against any OTHER member....and the charges are assumed to be "TRUTHFUL"....No questions asked....REGARDLESS OF THEIR TRUE, UNDERLYING MOTIVE....

....My creed is to be "FAIR" in all of my dealings with other IPER members....and NEVER DO HARM TO ANYONE, WHO HAS NOT DONE HARM TO ME....That is the manner, in which i was raised....

....I realize that i maintain a certain "openness" regarding details of my personal life, and that some may RESENT me for it....THAT, i understand....However, i do not believe that it is fair to be "penalized"....SOLELY BECAUSE OF IT....

....My goals are to publish a fresh blog topic every day, or so....create interesting groups....and upload pics to my gallery....all of which take a certain amount of time, out of my day....that, in addition to my very busy law school curriculum....

....I seriously am beginning to wonder if it is all "really worth it"....Perhaps, it is not, and i should pack my bags ;-( ....Oooooo, I JUST HEARD SOMEONE SHOUT "HOORAY"???....WHO WAS THAT???

....Ooooo...btw....for those wishing to read about my FIRST suspension, here is the link.... http://www.ipernity.com/blog/sexy-cindy/189096

....IPER presented meee, with a little surprise a few moments ago....In reality, 31 little surprises....31 of my 36 "PUBLIC" groups are now "PRIVATE"....That is not a problem, however....

I view it, as a "blessing in disguise"....An "early" BIRTHDAY SURPRISE....and my birthday is not for 9 more days....

....Now that i find myself with dozens more "PRIVATE" GROUPS (74 in total).... http://www.ipernity.com/blog/sexy-cindy/191265 ....i plan to make some changes to some of them, so that they may continue to grow....

....One of the changes i am considering, is PROMOTING ALL MEMBERS TO ADMINISTRATOR....all 400 MEMBERS, in one case....In that way, hundreds and hundreds of new members will be able to join the groups, as the new administrators would then be able to invite THEIR friends to join, as well....

....Your comments???....plus any ideas you might have, regarding PRIVATE group innovations for growth....

....The recent IPER conversion, of my 18+ groups....from PUBLIC to PRIVATE....is a "blessing in disguise".... http://www.ipernity.com/blog/sexy-cindy/191265 ....Many who were previously hesitant to join, or to add pics to a PUBLIC group, will be able to do so, now that my groups are PRIVATE....My entire 18+ pic gallery has always been for FRIENDS & FAMILY, only....so, why not the groups, which contain many of the same pics???

....In addition, this PUBLIC to PRIVATE change affects my GROUPS, only....It has NO EFFECT on my blog....my friends list....my gallery pics....etc....

....I am beginning to see things "in a new light"....As we have discussed in previous blog posts, many new IPER members, who do not upload pics to their galleries within a few days of joining, have NO INTENTION, WHATSOEVER, of EVER adding pics....You were RIGHT....and I was WRONG....Why reward them for their "inactivity" and lack of "sharing"???....I believe that i am finally convinced....Thanx for opening my eyes, everyone....

**NOTICE TO ALL GROUP ADMINISTRATORS**....AS OF TODAY, I HAVE RESIGNED FROM EVERY 18+ PUBLIC GROUP, OF WHICH I WAS A MEMBER, AND HAVE ALSO REMOVED MY PICS, FROM THOSE GROUPS....I WILL NO LONGER CONTRIBUTE PICS TO 18+ PUBLIC GROUPS....HOWEVER, I WILL STILL CONTRIBUTE PICS TO 18+ PRIVATE GROUPS....I FEEL THAT THIS IS THE ONLY WAY, THAT I MAY PROTECT THE LONGEVITY OF MY SITE....

....Nearly everyday, i notice at LEAST one or two members who have absolutely NOTHING TO SHARE (or nearly nothing to share), quitting 20+ groups of mine, within a few minutes....They scroll thru their groups list....and delete those that say CINDY....Apparently, they are upset with meee....ahhhhhh....

....They have added meee to their friends list....but have NOTHING to share....Sooo, WHY would they become pi**ed at meee, and EXPECT MEEE TO ADD THEM, IN RETURN???....

....MY ADVICE???....Instead of adding friends ....ADD PICS....Then, i may wish to have your name, on my friends list....

....If someone has been an IPER member for....say, 2 weeks or longer....and has hardly added a single pic to his gallery....WHY WOULD HE EXPECT ANYTHING....FROM ANYONE???....Quite presumptuous....

....With the recent IPER conversion of 31 of my PUBLIC GROUPS to PRIVATE, in addition to those i already had....i find myself with many, many PRIVATE GROUPS (74), which i administer....

....I seek novel ideas, regarding innovations and concepts, so as to keep these groups fresh and growing, in terms of membership and content....

....Ideas, anyone???

**NOTICE TO ALL GROUP ADMINISTRATORS**....AS OF TODAY, I HAVE RESIGNED FROM EVERY 18+ PUBLIC GROUP, OF WHICH I WAS A MEMBER, AND HAVE ALSO REMOVED MY PICS, FROM THOSE GROUPS....I WILL NO LONGER CONTRIBUTE PICS TO 18+ PUBLIC GROUPS....HOWEVER, I WILL CONTINUE TO CONTRIBUTE PICS TO 18+ PRIVATE GROUPS....

....I FEEL THAT THIS IS THE ONLY WAY, THAT I MAY PROTECT THE LONGEVITY OF MY SITE....

....This is the FIRST time, that i have NOT allowed comments, in a blog post....I am doing this, because a previous blog post, similar to this one, brought expressions of sympathy for meee....which i appreciated, but ALWAYS try to avoid....

....In a few days, i will be 24 years old....While ALL OF US have been thru many difficult and trying times in our lives, i have been thru some which are very unusual for someone my age....including the loss of my parents, a number of years ago....

....Despite setbacks and obstacles in my life, i have rebounded from all of them....and improved my life....I AM A SURVIVOR....

....My reason for mentioning this???....If even one disgruntled, spiteful, vengeful IPER MEMBER, believes that he is going to "knock meee down" and have an important, lasting effect on meee or my life....HE IS SADLY MISTAKEN!!!!!!!!!

....SOME OF THOSE SAME DISGRUNTLED, SPITEFUL, AND VENGEFUL MEMBERS, HAVE SURELY TRIED....AND FAILED, THIS WEEK....

....NO ICON???

....NO CHANCE of viewing my gallery....

....However, that is only the first step....Ooooooo, you DO have an icon....very good....

....Next step....Have any pics to share???

....Now, something totally unrelated....Some members' HOMEPAGES are TOTALLY UNREADABLE....i see many, using light color print on light background colors....or dark print on dark backgrounds...AND....some use a gallery pic for their homepage wallpaper, which makes the entire homepage TOTALLY UNREADABLE....

....Other members must surely notice this, also....OR....am i the only one who reads a member's homepage, before adding a friend???

....Last week, my account was suspended two different times....HOWEVER, i have noticed, in the past few days, that many of my friends are currently suspended....seems to be an UNUSUALLY LARGE number....

....Could it be professional "back-stabbers" at work???....Something in the water???....Former friends turning "hostile" (of which, i know at least one, in my case)???

....As a direct consequence, of my account having been suspended TWICE, last week....and having 31 of my PUBLIC GROUPS converted to PRIVATE GROUPS by IPER, i posted a blog thread.... http://www.ipernity.com/blog/sexy-cindy/192222 ....explaining that i intended to resign from all PUBLIC GROUPS....

....Before i resigned from each PUBLIC GROUP, i emailed the ADMINISTRATOR, explaining the reasons for my resignation....and saying, that i hoped he would understand....

....Apparently, some group administrators have placed their selfish "group" interests, above friendship. A few....one or two....have resigned from MY groups, in a sort of babyish, infantile "QUID PRO QUO"....

....In summary, i have two requests for them....FIRST, please have the decency, to remove your pics from my groups, so as to save meee the trouble....Some will do ANYTHING, for a pic view....They will quit my groups, so as to make a "statement"....YET, REFUSE TO REMOVE THEIR PICS....I CALL THEM "SPINELESS"........and my SECOND request....re-read the title, above....

....BTW....i WAS going to use the phrase "kiss my....u know what" instead of the one i chose, in the title, above....but thought they might enjoy doing it....

***UPDATE***....THIS PROBLEM IS APPARENTLY CORRECTED....I AM NOW ABLE TO JOIN GROUP #83....

....Many, many other IPER members are having this problem....just as i am....

....I belong to 82 IPER groups....i have NO, NO, NO pending invitations, which under the new rules, counts towards the 100 group maximum....

....Sooo, i SHOULD be able to join 18 ADDITIONAL groups....CORRECT???....NOOOOOOO....When i attempt to join group #83, a box informs meee, that i am over the 100 group maximum, and that i must quit one group, before i may join another....

....I AM NOT OVER THE 100 GROUP MAXIMUM....I ONLY BELONG TO 82 GROUPS....AND I HAVE NOOO PENDING INVITATIONS....

....I AM LOCKED INTO 82 MAXIMUM GROUPS, APPARENTLY....NOT 100....

....OTHER MEMBERS HAVE WRITTEN TO MEEE, with the SAME PROBLEM....

....IPER....COULD YOU PLEEEEZZ FIX THIS???

....I JUST RECEIVED THIS EMAIL, FROM ANOTHER MEMBER....

Hi, Cindy---

Just wanted to say Thanks for the invites to your various groups, they all sound great. Ipernity keeps telling me that I'm a member of 100 groups and reached my limit. I have quit 26 of them and they are still telling me that I belong to 100, guess they can't count.

....I am considering the purchase of an IPER PRO ACCOUNT....and "GIFTING" the account, to another deserving member....

....Does anyone know if PRO ACCOUNTS may be "GIFTED"....as is possible, on the "other" photo site???

Also, pleeezz visit.... http://www.ipernity.com/group/pro_account_gift ....this link will take you to my newest public group....one which has as it's theme, the gifting of an IPER PRO ACCOUNT MEMBERSHIP, to a deserving IPER member....

....Just want to say thanx again, for the tons of birthday wishes, i received....I cannot believe how many sweet people there are, on this site....xoxo