Ok, so I've been on iPernity for short time and I like a lot things that are new and original for me while other things are or seem pretty similar to to other online communities.  One thing that I've learned is that it's realy not beneficial to me to keep people on my Contact/Watch/Friend's list if I'm not also on thiers, so if I added you to my contact list and I'm not on yours I'll be deleting you from my contact list today.  It's not anything personal and if you decide you that you do think you want to develop some kind of ongoing dialogue just add me to your contact and/note me and and we can get it rectified quickly.  For me it's just better to nip that in the bud now just so people know where I'm coming from and don't have to guess about it.